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March 1, 2024

The "Death Talk" Nobody Wants to Have: Tools for Starting the Conversation

Let's face it, talking about death isn't exactly a recipe for a lively brunch conversation.  We get it.  Images of uncomfortable silences and tearful goodbyes might flash in your mind.  But here's the thing: avoiding this conversation can create far bigger problems down the line.

Think about it: wouldn't you rather your loved ones know your wishes for healthcare, end-of-life care, and even your prized stamp collection?  Open communication around death, while admittedly not lighthearted, is actually a gift – a gift of clarity, peace of mind, and maybe even a head start on avoiding family feuds over your favorite teapot.


So, how do we approach this seemingly daunting conversation? Here are some tools to equip you for a smoother (and maybe even slightly less awkward) "death talk":


  • Find the Right Time and Place: Don't ambush your loved ones during Thanksgiving dinner. Choose a calm and neutral environment, maybe over coffee or during a relaxed weekend activity.


  • Frame it as a Conversation, Not a Monologue: This isn't about dictating your wishes. It's about a two-way exchange.  Listen to their thoughts and fears too.


  • Start Small: You don't have to dive headfirst into complex medical directives. Begin with lighter topics like funeral preferences or who should inherit your prized recipe collection.


  • Use Current Events or Movies as a Springboard: Did a celebrity's passing spark a conversation about end-of-life care? Use that as a springboard to share your own thoughts in a natural way.


  • Humor Can Help (a Little): A lighthearted joke can break the tension. But remember, this isn't a stand-up routine.  Respect the seriousness of the topic.


  • Tools are Your Friends: There are excellent resources available online and in libraries. Explore websites like the Conversation Project or the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization for conversation starters and helpful guides.


Remember: This can be an ongoing conversation, not a one-time event. As your life changes, so might your wishes.


Bonus Tip:  Consider creating an "End-of-Life Wishes" document (with your lawyer's guidance if needed). This can be a central location for your preferences,  minimizing confusion later.


Talking about death might not be high on anyone's list of favorite activities, but a little planning and open communication go a long way. So, take a deep breath, equip yourself with these tools, and  start that conversation. Your future self (and your loved ones) will thank you for it.


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